It has been a long time since I have decided to sit down and write a blog. Not much has happened since my last blog post, but I can honestly say that I miss the liberty of decluttering my brain over time. This weekend I received a random text from one of my dear sisters and she encouraged me to continue writing. Let me remind you, writing was very far from my mind. I wasn’t thinking about it at all. I probably was thinking about food or my personal challenges… who knows! She encouraged me though. She explained the importance of using our gifts that God has given us. This is why I am here today because someone encouraged me and with this encouragement I wanted to share it with someone else.
I don’t have that many fans on my blog, but I want to take time to talk about community and friendships. Most of the time you hear people say that “Be careful who you surround yourself with, you will eventually grow to look like them.” I know most of you have heard some version of this saying. I can honestly say that I completely agree with it. Most of the times, we tend to adapt to environments that reflect our passions, needs, or desires. Although I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with this, we have to stay mindful of what we can get ourselves into. For example, I am a believer. I believe in Jesus Christ and the infallible word of God. With my belief, I know that there is a certain limitation when it comes to community. The word calls us to be disciples in the midst of the world, but if I constantly surround myself with people that don’t believe in the same morals that the Bible teaches then there is a possibility that those values could slowly fade away and I get caught in a very compromising position. This is not to say that one cannot accomplish a goal in an opposing surrounding, but it is suggesting that there is a limit to how much opposition you can consume. Community plays a huge part in it.
My dear sister had the compassion to encourage me to do something she knows that I am decent at doing. She thought about me from a point of view that corresponds with our ultimate goal, to glorify God. In knowing that this is my personal belief and desire, it encouraged me to do so. I have personally been in compromising environments where I always questioned myself and my talents. I never felt good enough, I spoke in fear, and I moved on anxiety. In my world, these things shouldn’t be present in a healthy community. For clarification, I am not saying that any surrounding is perfect, but you know what is good for you and what is not.
My challenge to you and to myself is to fully examine your surrounding. Ask yourself, how are these people benefiting me? Are they feeding me positivity? Can I learn to be a better person with the people that I am currently around? I believe asking yourself these questions is the first step to self-realization. We all have one life to live. We shouldn’t spend it being fooled by our surroundings. Ultimately, you know yourself better than anyone else. You know what you need to be successful and you know what you need to help others be successful. I encourage you to return back to the thing you love, reevaluate your community, and adjust accordingly. You are a gifted individual that needs a community of people to remind you that your gifts have a purpose.